Nov 19, 2018
During this 15th episode of the
Self Care Passport podcast, Janae Fletcher, self-care architect,
quiet leader, personal and professional mentor, creator of the Self
Care Passport process, and host interviews Karina Kayser, Sexual
Assault Nurse Examiner, Massage Practitioner, Proprietor, Wedding
Officiating, and HOPE Foundation Mentor. Karina mentors parents who
have lost children. Janae and Karina talk about grief and how
allowing yourself to feel all the emotions and how self-care plays
an important role in navigating the ups and downs of grieving
- The 5
Stages of Grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and
yourself space and grace wherever you are in your stages of
- Exercise as a tool for overcoming
- It is
easy to neglect yourself when in grief
in nature is one of the most healing arenas and
doesn't ease emotions but it makes the day easier
loved ones to support you through the process
sad is ok
- People will approach you not knowing how much
their words can affect you (the griever)
- Intention behind words is very
do you say to someone who is grieving? What do you need was a great
question or offering presence helped--no words, simply being with
the other person.
- HOPE--Helping Other Parents Endure foundation.
Karina is a mentor for this foundation and is extremely
- Bearing the unbearable when walking through
grief with support
year, Karina and her family do a random act of kindness on her
grandaughter's ¨would-be¨ birthday, Christmas and angelversary. It
keeps her memory alive.
rituals and having traditions is helpful
- Kindness is important when you are
- During the holidays, it is even more obvious
when someone isn't there.
- Remembering is important
pause and take pause is so important.
- It is
ok to say no to events when you are grieving
griever needs to make a clear and concrete sentence about what they
need in grieving
- It is
important for people to understand how to be with you.
- Become part of your own process or reach out if
- Grieving should be something that you do not
have to do alone
3 Key Points:
-Grief is a difficult emotion to
navigate in a culture who strives for happiness.
-Though grief isn't necessarily
openly accepted, grievers must allow themselves space and grace to
feel all of the feelings while going through the stages of
-No one should have to grieve
alone. Reach out to loved ones, cherished friends or get connected
to the outside resources, like the MISS Foundation.